I work with capable, independent women who hold a great deal together on the outside and are beginning to notice what it costs them on the inside.
I work from a Gestalt approach, in person in Barcelona and online. We talk about putting too much pressure on yourself, control, relationships, the fear of needing others… and what happens when always being able to cope starts to weigh on you.
Maybe it is not just that you are an active person.
Sometimes stopping means coming face to face with everything you do not have to listen to while you are doing, organising and sorting things out.
Asking for help, leaning on someone, saying “I can’t do everything”.
Maybe you have managed on your own for so long that needing someone is starting to feel uncomfortable.
What you do. What you feel. What might happen.
Because when you know what comes next, it seems like you can relax.
Although, curiously, you do not always relax.
You function. You work. You make plans. You answer “fine” when someone asks how you are.
And sometimes it is only when you stop that you realise you do not really know how you are.
This is not about becoming less driven, independent or capable. Those parts of you have probably taken you a long way. It is about understanding when they help you and when the price you pay for them starts becoming too high.
Understanding why, however much you do, you still feel you could have done more. And what happens inside you when you fall short, make a mistake or simply cannot manage everything.
Noticing what you need before automatically saying “it’s fine”. Being able to ask, receive or say no without feeling that you are being a burden, selfish or disappointing someone.
Understanding why you need certain things to be so tightly controlled. What comes up when you cannot anticipate, solve or keep doing. And why resting does not always mean you actually manage to stop.
Looking at the place you tend to occupy in your relationships: how much you give, how much you ask for, what you do when you need the other person, and why some stories change characters but feel far too similar.
Distinguishing between what you genuinely want, what you do out of inertia, and what you have spent years doing because it is “what you’re supposed to do”. And beginning to make choices that feel a little more your own.
If you are thinking about starting, we can meet first. You can tell me what brings you here, ask your questions and see whether working with me feels right.
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To get to know each other, tell me what brings you here and see what you would like to work on in therapy.
After we meet, you decide whether you want to continue.
1 hour · Individual
You do not need a diagnosis or a perfect explanation of what is happening. You might come because of a specific situation, because something keeps repeating, or because everything seems to work on the outside but you do not quite feel well.
Every process is different, and there is no fixed number of sessions. We review together what you need and whether the work is useful to you.
The first meeting involves no commitment. It is a chance to get to know each other, discuss what you would like to work on and see whether starting with me feels right.
Writing about the things you may do almost without noticing: pushing yourself, adapting, controlling, or keeping everything going when something does not quite feel right.
You do a great deal. Even so, at the end of the day your mind finds the one thing you missed. A look at what happens when it never feels like enough.
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